You Never Lose By Loving. You Always Lose By Holding Back.

You know, love is just like someone waiting for a bus.   

When the bus comes, you look at it and you say to yourself   "eeee...so full....cannot sit down"."I'll wait for the next one".   So you let the bus go and waited for the second bus.   Then the second bus came, you looked at it you say,   "eeee...this bus is so old...so shabby!"

So you let the bus go and again, decided to wait for the next bus.

After a while another bus came, it's not crowded, not old but you said,   "eeee... not air-conditioned ...better wait for the next one".   So again you let the bus go and decided to wait for the next bus.   Then the sky started to get dark as it is getting late.   You panicked and jumped immediately inside the next bus.   It is not until much later that you found out that you had boarded the wrong bus!  So you wasted your time and money waiting for what you want!   Even if an air-conditioned bus comes, you can't ensure that the air-conditioned bus won't  break down or whether or not the air-conditioner will be too cold for you. 

So people... wanting to get what you want is not wrong.   But it wouldn't hurt to give other people a chance, right?  If you find that the "bus" doesn't suit you just press the red button and get off the bus!   (as simple as that!)

.. Hey who said life is fair??? 

The best thing to do is be observant and open while you scrutinize the bus.   If it doesn't suit you, get off.    But you must always have an extra something which you could use for the next bus that comes. 

But wait........ I'm sure you have this experience before.  You saw a bus coming (the bus you want, of course) you flagged it but the driver acted as if he did not see you and zoomed pass you!  It just wasn't meant for you! 

The bottom line is, being loved is like waiting for a bus you want.   Getting on the bus and appreciating the bus by giving it a chance depends totally on you.   If you haven't made any choice, WALK!  Walking is like being out of love.  The good side of it is you can still choose any bus you want... the rest who couldn't afford another ride would just have to be content with the bus they rode on, ugly or not. 

One more thing.... sometimes it better to choose a bus you are already familiar with rather than gamble with a bus that is unfamiliar to you.   But then again, life wouldn't be complete without the risks involved. 

BUT THERE'S ONE BUS THAT I FORGOT TO TELL YOU ABOUT - THE BUS THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO WAIT FOR.......IT WILL JUST STOP ON ITS OWN AND WILL ASK YOU TO COME INSIDE AND TAKE A FREE RIDE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE...

Girl Fact, Guy Fact

WHEN A GIRL MISSES  U -                                                                                                                                                                                                              

she's afraid to see how your new girl looks,  

she's dreading the fact that you're not hers any more

When u break a girls heart,

she still feels it when bumping heads 3 years later

When a girl just stares deep into your eyes,

she's HOPING that your hers and only hers ( it shows how much she cares: eyes never lie)

When a girl is quiet,

millions of things are running through her mind.

When a girl is not arguing,

she is thinking deeply.

When a girl looks at you with eyes full of questions,
she is wondering how long you will be around.

When a girl answers, "I'm fine, "

after a few seconds, she is not at all fine.

When a girl stares at you,

she is wondering why you are so wonderful.

When a girl lays her head on your chest,
she is wishing for you to be hers forever.

When a girl calls you everyday,

she is seeking for your attention.

When a girl wants to see you everyday,
she wants to be pampered.

When a girl says, "I'll love you forever, "
she means it.

When a girl says that she can't live without you,
she has made up her mind that you are her future.

When a girl says, "I miss you, "

no one in this world can miss you more than that

GUY FACTS

When a guy calls u

he wants to be with you

When a guy is quiet,

He's listening to you...

When a guy is not arguing,

He realizes he's wrong

When a guy says, "I'm fine, "

after a few minutes, he means it

When a guy stares at you,

he wishes you would care about him and wonders if you do?

When you're laying your head on a guy's chest

he has the world

When a guy calls you everyday

he is in love

When a (good) guy say he loves you

he means it

When a guy says he can't live without you
he's with you till your done

When a guy says, "I miss you, "

he misses you more than you could have ever missed him or anything else

7 Signs you may have found Mr. & Ms. Right

While browsing yahoo, this article caught my attention.  And indeed, this is somewhat true.  Check if you and your valentine is compatible.   Happy Valentine Everyone!

By Krista Bloom, Ph.D. LCSW

Special to Yahoo! Personals

In happy, successful relationships, both partners seem to be on the same page and to really enjoy life together. The more you have in common with the other person on the things that count, the more successful you are likely to be in the relationship. I call this the "compatibility factor."

Here are seven forms of compatibility to look for in your valentine.

1. Personality Compatibility. What's inside the person is the most important factor, because that is going to be there always. Decide what personality types you are most attracted to. Many people enjoy a great sense of humor, for example. Others look for someone with certain spiritual values.

Find someone you really like and can have fun with.   Think about how the two of you will get along down the road. Take your time to get to know someone's true nature, because people often put their best foot forward at first.

2. Chemistry Compatibility. You have to click in the physical department. Being mismatched in this area can lead to resentments and have a long-term effect on your love life together. For example, if one of you believes in PDA (Public Display of Affection) and the other is adamantly against it, that may cause serious problems over time.

3. Communication Compatibility. Are you and your valentine on the same page in terms of communication? See if your conversations flow, and if they are enjoyable for both of you. When you're in love, you may think you have the best conversations, when really one of you is doing all the talking.

While you are getting to know each other, keep conversations real and fun.

Avoid the temptation to talk about past relationships  it can be a downer and you don't want to turn your date into a support group. Focus on what you enjoy.

4. Friends and Family Compatibility. This comes later, usually after you have been dating for a few months. Do you get along with one another's friends and family, or are there clashes and conflict? If you don't get along with your valentine's inner circle, then the relationship may not work, unless you love the person enough to grin and bear it.

This does not mean that if your valentine's friends and family are not exactly your cup of tea you should dump him or her. Some you will like and others not. Consider how close they live to you and how often you will need to see them before deciding this is a deal breaker.

5. Health and Nutrition Compatibility. Are you a health food nut or a junk food junkie? Are you a speed-walker or a channel surfer? See if your health-related lifestyles match or not. Although this may seem silly, later in life health becomes more of an issue for people.

6. Financial Compatibility. Money is one of the things couples fight about most often.

If you share similar financial goals and means, this can be very helpful.  Don't be afraid to ask questions about how the person likes to handle their money, especially as you get to know each other well.

One question you can ask is what your valentine thinks is the best way to manage income and bills. If you agree, then great. If you need to learn more about finances, take a course and read books and articles on Yahoo! Finance to get your financial health on track.

7. Lifestyle Compatibility. Having common interests can really help in a relationship. If you share a passion for something, you can have even more fun together in your free time. You can also expose each other to new interests, which can be exciting. However, if you absolutely hate sports and he has season tickets to every game in town, this may cause a lifestyle clash.

What if you're not compatible?

Sometimes, there are so many clashes in so many areas that the relationship begins to suffer. What can you do if you and your valentine are not compatible? You can:

1. Take an inventory of your relationship. You can look more in depth into life's domains -- green flags that bring you together or red flags that pull you apart.

2. Accept things as they are. The main idea is to look for workability, not perfection. We have to let some things go or we'll never be happy in any relationship. Enjoy and appreciate each other for who you are!

3. Change and ask for change. If you are both willing to make changes, be specific and set realistic goals about what you are willing to do and how things could improve between you. Keep the lines of communication open.

It is much more effective to choose a compatible partner in the initial stages of dating than it is to "fix" something that is "broken" later. It's hard to move on, especially if you are already in love and committed. In any relationship, you will need to work on things.

Enjoy the journey; I hope that this will give you a start to know if you have indeed found your Mr. or Ms. Right for you this Valentine's Day!