I read it some few years back from one of the leading newspaper in the country. This article inspires me and I actually scanned the whole article for reference.
I AM A 25-YEAR-OLD woman whose experience betrays her age. I have managed to
make my parents proud with my achievements as a young girl, disappointed them
with my teenage antics, and brought them full circle with my wisdom as a
grown-up.
My
life experiences range from the life-stylish to the life-threatening to the
life-altering. I have enough juicy stories to regale my girl friends and future
grandkids with. I have been in enough interesting relationships, from the
supremely romantic to the downright ridiculous. I have had enough successes to
make a person stand tall, and any mother proud, and I have suffered enough
heartbreaks and failures to make a person diligent, compassionate and grateful.
It
has not been easy, but I have realized in the past few years that life,
contrary to popular notion, is indeed fair, that what a person gives he will
receive, that in this world something cannot come from nothing, and that a
person is who he is because he chooses to be that way.
I
would have loved to share my stories in detail, but as modesty inhibits me from
repeating some of them, I have chosen to write instead about the lessons I have
learned and now strive to remember and live by. These are the lessons that have
saved my life, kept me hopeful and made my life the blessing that it is now.
1.
Count your blessings without allowing yourself to be complacent. Between
ungrateful and lazy, there is a difference.
2.
The fact that one has much does not earn him the right to be self-righteous and
insensitive; the fact that he has little does not earn him the right to be
self-righteous and spiteful.
3.
The predator you must most fear?and the victim you must least pity?is yourself.
4.
Sometimes, it is easier to forgive a person for being wrong than for being
right.
5.
The most dangerous feeling in the world is entitlement. One must not ever allow
himself?under any lucky circumstance and regardless of any lucky evidence?to
feel entitled to any object, consequence, treatment or relationship he has not
rightfully earned either through hard work or by virtue of the person he is.
6.
The quality of a man?s life is a testament to his person. When you get yourself
right, you get everything right.
7.
One must learn to take the good with a little grace, the bad with a little
hope, and the ugly with a little humor.
8.
A question one must ask himself when speaking strongly on a subject is whether
he can stand by his argument in court; when speaking strongly about another
person, whether he can repeat it to an audience that includes the object of his
opinion. A positive answer verifies the honesty of his intention.
9.
Only you can complete your person. For this reason, one should not get into any
relationship for the purpose of finding completion; one cannot give to another
what he is unable to give to himself.
10.
Only when a person is happy, content and confident about his place in the world
can he afford to wish the same for everyone else. It is awfully difficult for a
person to wish others well when he feels wronged or cheated.
11.
When someone tells you he loves you, ask why. To be loved for no reason is a
crime; it sends the wrong message that a person could be loved though he has
done nothing to make himself loveable. To be loved for a reason?especially for
virtue of the person you are?is a beautiful thing. It tells you?if you have
taken care of your person, if you have strived to be good and fair?that you
have succeeded.
12.
Faith is not passive surrender to the tides of life; it is the belief that
there is a God who watches above us all, who is fair, who likes to see us try,
who appreciates the merit of a job well done. Let your faith enable you in all
endeavors. Let your faith be the kind that believes in God, in the human
spirit, in yourself. Wish not what you finitely want but what you infinitely
desire?what is best for you, all things considered. Trust in what you can do,
and trust that God overlooks no hard effort.
13.
There is no shame in starting, and in starting over. Remember, however, to
start always with a dream, and start over with certainty and purpose.
14.
A person should make friends, lovers or enemies based on one ground only:
principle. Seek people of your likeness on this account, and make age, gender,
race, material wealth, social status or a person?s ?normality? irrelevant.
15.
Understand that the only force you can control is yourself.
16.
In life there is human kindness, and human horror. Keep this in mind when you
are out in the world. Have enough faith in human kindness to return an honest
smile, and enough wariness of human horror to lock your front door.
17.
Forever is a long time. When choosing relationships and occupations, choose who
and what you really like, those that you will enjoy for the rest of your life.
18.
There is nothing wrong with advertising sex for as long as one does not sell
it, or give it arbitrarily.
19.
Abuse often requires consent, whether explicitly given or silently suggested.
You must learn to give what you hope to receive from others.
20.
Surround yourself with people who care about you enough to be honest, yet care
about you enough to be kind.
21.
Sexy is a state of mind. It is that sense of worldliness about a man or a woman,
the suggestion behind sparkling eyes and a sparkling laugh over a delicious
secret just begging to be told... It is knowing your place in the world.
22.
One must learn to triumph without apology and fail without excuse. To apologize
for a triumph demeans the hard work that went into its achievement; to offer
excuses for a failure dignifies it.
23.
Choose your battles; you cannot win them all.
24.
Identify your non-negotiables. A person may be unclear about what he wants, but
he must know at all times what is unacceptable.
25.
One must develop the habit of honest self-audits. He must start by identifying,
through personal heroes, mentors or influences, his platinum standards?of
character, personality and achievement?then regularly evaluate how he measures
against them. Who you start as may be not be your fault, but who you become is
your own doing.
26.
Dare to be the exception. Be beautiful, intelligent, sexy, funny, successful
and kind all at the same time and at stellar levels. Those who say it cannot be
done are usually those who have tried and failed, but that is their story, not
yours.
27.
Each time you close your eyes, you are taken to a place where there is only you
and God. Live your days in such a manner that when you are left alone with God,
you do not have to avert your eyes.
28.
Smile. Laugh. Kiss. Hug. Pray. Play. Work hard. Learn. Teach. Travel. Achieve.
Dream. Hope. Love. Forgive. Flirt. Stay. Walk away. Commit. Have faith. Try.
Share. Be single. Marry. Make babies. Raise kids. Party. Discover. Listen.
Live.
Marvicci
G. Mendoza, 25, works as an educator in the BPO industry and spends her free
time with the people and stuff she loves.
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